Tea: Peach Tea
Music: Trouble by Cat Stevens
Quote: “Things worry me sometimes, but I just catch up a broom and sweep, or wash hard, or walk, or go at something with all my might, and I usually find that by the time I get through the worry is gone, or I `ve got courage enough to bear it without grumbling,” answered Polly. An Old Fashioned Girl by Louisa May Alcott
While nearly every young woman has read the classic Little Women, another great work by Louisa May Alcott, An Old Fashioned Girl, is too often overlooked. Polly Milton is the story’s charming heroine, an old fashioned country girl, who wins over her rich relations and the adorable Tom Shaw with her sweetness, humour, and a healthy dose of common-sense (reflected in the quote above). By and large, a great deal of worry and unhappiness is caused by thinking too much of one’s own personal grievances. Polly’s way of dealing with her worries may be old-fashioned (even for her time-and we are talking about the 19th century!), but it is as effective today as it was in Alcott’s sweet story.
Keep in mind, when I say worries, I am not talking about the worry endured by a single mother who doesn’t know how to put food on the table, or the crippled soldier who doesn’t know when he will next see his family. I am talking about myself, and many like me, who are disappointed that they didn’t get into the graduate program of their choice, or that the dream job didn’t materialize, or (and this is the most common cause of the doldrums) that the guy they like isn’t calling. Bastard! For women and girls like myself, whose small petty problems can feel overwhelming, Polly’s old-fashioned advice to go “catch up a broom and sweep, or wash hard, or walk”, coupled with her tendency to help others is an excellent remedy for the doldrums. As my mother says, life is not fair. When I’m feeling sorry for myself, I try to remember how much worse things could be(have you seen how those children live in Slumdog Millionaire?), go for a walk, tidy up the house, anything to keep me from moping.
Before you think Polly is too much of a goody two-shoes to have any relevance for us modern day women, I should make you aware that she displays a healthy antagonism towards her arch-nemesis and rival, Trix, and recklessly splurges on a new pair of gloves and bonnet when she shouldn’t. Who could really like a girl who did not say something bitchy once in a while or spend too much on a new dress? And that brings me to my second remedy for the doldrums. If cleaning the house, exercise or charity work does not drag you out of your moping, put on your sexiest dress, curl your hair, and hit the town. Better yet, put on your sexiest dress and volunteer at the nearby convalescent home. Even in a wheelchair, men do notice! Just making a little bit of effort with your appearance will have an effect on not only those around you, but on your own self-esteem. Never underestimate the power of a little lipstick when you need to rescue yourself from the doldrums.